Thursday, April 16, 2009

Why is it like pulling teeth when trying to get my family to do something for me?

My mom just got awful chest pains and i have the flu A couple of days ago someone slashed my tires a second time after I got them fixed My mom has diabetes and heart problems. So being that Im sick and my tires are down I cant take my mom to the e.r. So I call my aunt (my mom lended her thousands of dollars and she didnt even pay it back and I helped her mooching daughter out when no one else would) and she had the nerve to say %26quot;Why are you calling me so late I have to throw my grandbaby a birthday party tomorrow%26quot; this was after I told her that her sister needed her to take her to the emergency room. The nerve of that *****. What am I suppose to do I%26#039;m 19 years old and everyone still looks at me like a child and then expects me to do grown up **** when they need ME I want to end this cycle of abuse please help because i refuse to be used anymore and i refuse to let them keep doing this to my mother This is only one example of millions.

Why is it like pulling teeth when trying to get my family to do something for me?
It might just be the time to cut financial ties with them. Obviously they are being abusive of the benefits your mother has for them. It seems like your mom is on your side, so it will take corralling your mom around the idea of cutting the financial opportunities from them.





I don%26#039;t know if you have already, but I would report to the police about your tires being slashed on your car. Repeat occurances make it look a lot more targeted than if it was a randomized attack.





I am going to pray for your mom%26#039;s dealings with diabetes %26amp; heart issues. Feel free to pray it as you read or whatever.





Dear Father,


You know the needs of this family. Father we just thank you that all the needs here are met, whether this be transportation or healing. Lord we know that there is an enemy out there that steals, kills, and destroys so we just plea the blood of Jesus over this family. We thank you that by doing this the devil no longer has an opportunity to destroy transportation, steal money from them, or try to choke out either of their lives by sickness of any kind. I thank you that this is done because you died on the cross so that we would have victory over the works of the devil. I pray Lord that if this precious family does not know about Your salvation that you would send people along their paths to show them Your love. I pray that they will find a church where they can go to learn more about Your benefits. I love you Lord for who you are and what you%26#039;re doing in this family! Praise You, God!





Amen.
Reply:to much drama for you and your momma
Reply:Call a cab if you have to, to get your mother to the ER.





A lot of times family is just selfish, I%26#039;ve seen and known a lot of people like that. If I know a person is like that it shouldn%26#039;t matter if they%26#039;re %26quot;family%26quot; or not. It%26#039;s soon better to just cut ties with them if they aren%26#039;t being a family to you.
Reply:Try being a straight-shooter because doing things the way you have been is not working for you.





When you call your aunt for help and she rebukes, remind her that A) she is your mother%26#039;s sister, and if that is not enough, B) that when your mother was able, she lent your aunt money! If she does not step up to the plate, WRITE HER OFF! STOP giving abusive, neglectful people second and third opportunities to abuse you!





Remember this line, %26quot;You teach people how to treat you.%26quot; It means that by allowing people to treat you badly, you are teaching them that it is okay to treat you badly.





As for the emergency room visit and the disabled car, either call an ambulance or a cab, depending on the severity of your mom%26#039;s condition.
Reply:If I were you and had physical proof of letting them borrow money, I would tell them to pay up and maybe even take them to court. It sounds low, but you know what, you treat people how they treat you.





You could also just stop helping them out, and even if your family members come crying asking for money, don%26#039;t let them borrow money anymore! Next time, see if a neighbor can help you out, or better yet, call the taxi... maybe next time you should call the ambulance, but maybe this time wasn%26#039;t too much of an emergency. I%26#039;d say a neighbor or taxi is your best bet.





Don%26#039;t forget to file a police report of having your tires slashed. Because if you happen to see who it is, and you want to take them to court or what not, you will need physical evidence that you had previously filed a police report.





Good luck to you and your mom! :)



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